On Nov 8th, in Vermont, I will be seeing clients for private sessions. That evening we teach a Joan of Arc micro-course. If you are in the area or have a friend who is, please pass the info along or sign up yourself! Learn more here.
I was visiting a friend for dinner when she lit her handmade New England oil lamp. I fell right in love. I came home and told my partner about it. Bri went to UNH and loved her time in New England. She tells me everything’s “cozy” there. My oil lamp crush was making me think she was right. When she got invited to speak in Montreal at the International Outdoor Adventure Conference, we got the idea to make our way down. It’s a New England tour I am very excited about. Hopefully I’m just in time to see the fall colors. I have sweet clients and friends who will be putting us up in Vermont and one of them, Dr. Sarah Wylie is hosting me at her clinic Red Blossom Medicine.
One of my amazing students recommended Clarissa Pinkola Estes’s lecture, Warming the Stone Child. Towards the end of Estes’s talk, she asks the listener: What was your favorite fairytale or story as a child? Did the story have a negative or positive ending? Consider this story is your own person myth. That it has in some way laid a foundation for what you believe about your life. It’s neither good nor bad, just acknowledge it has had some influence. This was such a profound moment for me. My own favorite story was Cinderella. I loved the glamor and the magic of this story. It has indeed been imprinted on my psyche. So I took it apart to see the different themes that ran thru my life. Then I began to rewrite the story as an affirmation. I don’t want to live outdated programming that is toxic. It has been a powerful exercise. I highly recommend it. It costs you nothing to ask yourself these questions and then to sit for a bit and re-write it.
As a child my story was Cinderella, as a teenager it was Pretty Woman. Imagine that! Same fucking story!
The positive, you are magical and beautiful despite what you have been through. You should fight for your place in the world and who says those hard working girls in poverty don’t deserve a fabulous night out! I could go on and on. I am looking at what this story taught me about my strength and power and also how did it limit me. Please try it. Maybe at your next dinner party? My partner does this thing where you tell her your favorite ice-cream and she “reads” it. Tells you all about your inner most thoughts via the ice cream flavor analysis. I make her do it at dinner parties for fun. Maybe you can do this one instead.
My deep Cinderella thoughts:
Cinderella endures loss, grief and there is plenty of misunderstanding of who she is. A total loss of loving parents and her identity. When faced with darkness she remains noble, hard working and humble. She endures oppression, scarcity and rises up eventually because the shoe fits. She has secret animal friends that love her and she’s good at finding joy and love wherever she can. Then she’s tricked into thinking she can attend the ball. It’s a cruel trick! I remember those cruel tricks played on me in childhood. Do you have those too? When I was all open-hearted, in my vulnerability and then it turned into feeling humiliated.
Cinderella lost her identity: Her name was changed because she had to sleep in the fireplace to keep warm and she was always dirty.
My name was so difficult for people to say as a kid I remember always feeling like my name was from another world.
I loved the fairy godmother part. In her darkest hour she has an angel that appears. When I was abandoned by my traveling companion in a foreign country because I wouldn’t have sex with him at the age of 19, I had my first experience with angelic help. It enabled me to tap into an inner strength, to hold my principles and self love in place as I navigated my way home to the US. I was scared. And when my mother died (I was 23), I asked a dear friend if she would be my GodMother. Her name is Maria and her home became a safe haven when I left my abusive husband at 26 years of age. Maria’s home, like the dress Cinderella wore that evening, had an expiration date and soon I needed to make my own place in the world. I had two wonderful women Marci and Theresa that both lent me money to pay for that divorce. This is my Cinderella story. My fairy Godmothers have been there for me.
The part about the shoe fitting? The glass slipper? That’s the incognito part of my life. People often think I am younger and not very wise when they meet me. I have a history of not being seen. (I bet you can relate.) This Cinderella story influenced my incognito part. She shows up at the ball and no one knows she’s really a total badass, they think she’s a “lady”.
When I was pregnant with my second child, two new acquaintances were chatting with me about being pregnant and being a mother. They offered unsolicited advice for about 45 minutes. All the while they have never asked me if this was my first child. People just see me and assume I don’t know who I am or what I’m doing. It happens to me ALL the time. (I’m almost 40 and it still happens.) I listened kindly and reflected back to them their own experiences, until they felt thoroughly seen and heard. Suddenly one of them realizes, they never asked me if this is my first child. I answered, “This is my second, I have a nine year old.” They were shocked as they both had one child under the age of mine. So if anything they should have been asking me questions. I have learned over the years to let people think whatever they need to think about me.
I know you might be reading this and thinking, ‘But you are Liliana Barzola, I come to you all the time for advice. How is it possible the world doesn’t see you?’
I refuse to fall into the game of proving myself. Aren’t you tired of this old trick? I am.
It used to make me sad. Now it makes me laugh. It’s funny to me. I embody the goddess and I know it. That’s all that matters at this point in my life.
Recently, my partner and I walked into a New Age shop full of crystals. A very arrogant woman at the counter treated me like I had no idea what I was doing there. She felt spiritually superior and made it known to me that she was full of intuition and magic and that I was a measly muggle. I said nothing and just let her feel her spiritual superiority over me. When we left my partner was furious. ‘She has no idea who you are! That’s like Michael Jackson walks into a music studio and some kid behind the counter starts giving him music tips. WFT!?!?’
I am a polar bear and she is a kitten. I don’t need to roar unless there is danger. People see my light and are threatened. I feel for them. That’s not for me to teach them. I’m off of work. If someone thinks I’m a boring and one dimensional that’s fine with me. They can make an appointment to work through their insecurity.
So what is your version of your favorite story? How has it influenced your life?If you want to play around with this project I made you a worksheet click here.
How do you get inspired? Sometimes inspiration strikes us, spontaneously occurring in unpredictable places; words scribbled on the back of a worn receipt you’ve been carrying around for months. Or is it a song lyric, a quote you heard on a Love: Requited Podcast episode? Maybe it’s an auditory memory during a rainstorm, or an echo of genuine laughter originating from the mouths of your dear ones, perhaps a savory meal.
Staying inspired does NOT need to feel like an accident or a burden but rather, with participation in our Joan of Arc Series. Staying inspired can re-claim it’s rightful place as after hours entertainment! Lotus Lantern Healing Arts invites you to expand your post 5 o’clock horizons, to go beyond mid-summer’s familiar outposts of netflix and romance novels. Click here to sign up now!
We want to give you a little taste with this video. We discuss the power of nature, ritual, love and pleasure. Get it while it’s hawt! Click here to watch!
One Participant Says:
I loved the blend of Liliana and Bri’s teaching styles, both of which are spiritual and thought provoking in different ways. The information, stories and meditations have helped me feel supported during a difficult work transition.
Who the heck is Bri Condon and why do I care? She’s an executive coach, entrepreneurial wizard and parent coach.
She has been a program director, operations manager and an executive director for a variety of agencies. Recently she broke ground in the State of Oregon. By creating opportunities for teens in foster care to surf the Oregon Coast. Bri Condon has worked inside and around DHS Child Welfare programming in Oregon since 2008. Bri holds a B.S in Outdoor Education focusing on struggling populations as well as a Masters Degree in Risk Management in Adventure Programming.
This 4-week session is wholeheartedly based on Joan of Arc. Allow us to guide you into the soul of this ancient archetype and you will draw strength in these times of overwhelm and confusion. Hence our subtitle, “Strength and Power in What Feels Like The Final Hour”. We really mean it, and she did too.
Join Bri & Liliana for this fun adventure series as we explore the time landscape of the 15th century, how dysfunction type casts health, the unapologetic and kick ass nature of Joan of Arc, and ultimately how you too can RIGHT THE LIGHT by leveraging the teachings of elders who are no longer among us.
Joan of Arc used her intuition, temperament, non-binary understanding of gender, her strategic mind, and courageous heart to overturn a disaster that was already upon her people, at the final moment of what could easily have been defeat.
Wanna listen in to a raw and vulnerable Saturday night at my house? In this video me and my sweetie discuss: Polarity, sex, how we define words differently, Del Taco and who’s wrong in an argument.
I was a little jealous of all the business consulting Bri was doing for my clients. So, I asked her for 12 hours of consulting. Her work blew my mind! She created solutions for problems I had been wrestling with for years. She did strategic planning, team building and executive coaching (supervision) for me. She challenged me and made me laugh a lot.
Bri’s work is for:
Entrepreneurs and Agencies
-Executive Coaching: Professional supervision and support for executives, managers or staff.
-Strategic Planning: Intentional program and business development, design, development, implementation and sustainability. Innovate current offerings or guidance for future endeavors.
-Training and workshop facilitation
Personal Development and Growth
Personal Coaching: For individuals looking to accelerate their own healing, growth and stability.
If you want to learn more about her services click here and scroll down to her bio.
I have felt so many emotions since this election, I have been gathering my words and strength before reaching out. I have needed to get clear and move past my personal fears before doing so.
I am the daughter of immigrants.
I am a woman.
I am a woman of color.
I am a woman in love with another woman.
As a child, my mother told me many stories of oppression growing up in Argentina under the rule of the Perón’s. After my parents immigrated to the states, we watched from afar as the “dirty war” in the 70’s “disappeared” thousands of people. It was very painful and scary.
I have created a meditation that helps us energetically understand why people like myself feel concerned about the future of this country. Let’s love and support each other during these intense times.
I am sharing 3 awesome things:
My partner and business advisor, Bri Condon, has created special offerings for Lotus Lantern. Bri has helped me move past many of my personal upper limit problems. She has been providing these services to many of my clients. Their feedback has been tremendous! She’s an incredible coach and offers business consultation, supervision and coaching for parents of adolescents. Click here and scroll down to learn more here.
Being a human is hard and sometimes earth can seem like a scary and unwelcoming place. There have been so many instances in my life when I have felt stuck and terrified. I’ve had to hold on and wait for clarity before I could take action.
FYI: I am TERRIBLE at waiting! Having to sit present and still in difficult circumstances, is like having to sit on a hot stove; it is epicly painful.
The thing that saves me: Intentional prayers and blessings!
What is it? A blessing is a moment to root and ground. It’s a communion or conversation between you, your higher-self and the divine. It’s like asking to see the manager when you’ve had a terrible customer service experience. It’s a ritual that gets your internal energy moving again. It’s also a way to withdraw your energy from chaos and re-invest it with a positive charge into a new direction.
When do I do this?
When The Walls Are Closing In: When I am contracted in fear and too scared to expand into my power. I feel stuck on one side of the river and am frantically trying to find the bridge to the other side.
Nightmares: When I wake from a nightmare that seems so real I can’t catch my breath.
Dinner time: Showing gratitude and blessing food restores the vital energy of the food. When we do this we are intentioning that anything that could be harmful be released from the food before we take it in; energetically matching our body.
Golden Suns are little prayers: Check out this video (start at the 4:30 mark)
When you call your life-force energy back to yourself, you have the power to make a sweet blessing before you incorporate that energy back. Think of it like a power boost that gives you the momentum you need when you can’t muster any willfulness.
Where can you find blessings? John O’Donohue’s has a wonderful book called: To Bless The Space Between Us. This is a great start. You can also create your own blessings!
Learn how to right now! Do this freestyle writing exercise to create a personal blessing. Just let the information come without judgement onto the paper.
What do I give myself permission to release?
If I release these things what freedoms do I gain?
What can I forgive myself for?
What do I intentionally want to bring to myself and into my life?
Then, write in some gratitude for the lessons learned.
Always ask for highest good. You can always ask for exactly what you want. However, at the end of the day; you only want for the highest good for yourself and others. This is the do no harm part.
Who are you calling upon for assistance? Here are a list of some safe healers to call upon.
The Great Mother and the Great Father
God or Divine Source
Your Higher Self
Ganesha (remover of obstacles)
Guardians of Light
FINALLY, blend all of this yumminess together to create a beautiful personalized mantra, prayer or blessings. You are powerful. The alchemy of blending your own words is a wonderful treat! Don’t be shy, give it a try.
Yippie! I have been dreaming about this for 3 years. Now, I finally get to co-facilitate a retreat at Five Pines Lodge in Sisters, Oregon! Oct 15th and 16th, 2016.
Here is the feeling behind this: I want to teach you stuff, but I also want to help you REST. (I don’t think you should be exhausted from a workshop, you should leave rested and re-inspired.) Our active learning day will be short and sweet from 9am til about 2pm. Lucky you, because Five Pines houses the AMAZING Shibui Spa, Sisters Movie Theater, Three Creeks Brewing and walking trails in the FOREST.
So we will PLAY during the morning and afternoon, then you can design your own rituals of self-care in your plentiful free-time.
Hosting this retreat is a big emotional step for me. I am doing a retreat for YOU, in a place that makes MY heart sing and we get to meditate and do energy work, encircled by magic. Our private classroom overlooks a meadow and creek. We have a big stone fireplace and beauty abounds. I get to feed you lunch and tea! How cool is that? Are you enticed? Are you curious? Want to learn more? THEN CLICK HERE FOR DETAILS
PLUS: I get to co-facilitate this retreat with Bri Condon of Alchemy Consulting, Bri brings experiential work and storytelling to this retreat. She has a badass work ethic and the ability to inspire and play hard.
You will grow and heal from the combination of my meditation, energy tools and her action, play and storytelling style. I hope you will join us!
“You have heard that you must ‘let go’ of surging emotions, feelings, and sensations, but they will let go of you when you call off the war. Nothing has gone wrong and no mistake has been made. There is primordial rest in the core of the fire. It is not an error that you have been born as a sensitive human being with a raw, open heart. Send your awareness into the center and watch as the nature of all form reveals as light. You need not fix your vulnerability or cover up your tenderness any longer. For it is through your sensitivity that love will come alive here, and erupt in the four directions.” — Matt Licata
My divorce became final last month! I decided to give myself the gift of a Wholistic Organizer. What the heck is that you ask? That’s a magical woman named Alethea Dalton. She comes to your house and makes it beautiful and functional FAST! This woman is amazing and you need to know more about her. I don’t know a single person who doesn’t need this treatment. In 3 hours she transformed my entire kitchen. I love to cook, but now I LOVE to cook! This chick put everything in the exact right place. I didn’t even know how much I needed this until I was dancing with joy in my kitchen.
Alethea explained to me that I have spent many years being loyal to someone else’s needs
and expectations (my ex) but that now I had the freedom to express a loyalty to myself. Her business, High Fidelity Organizing, blossomed out of the belief in nurturing the highest loyalty to oneself.
What: One room Make-Over (3 – hour session )
I will always start with what you have available in your home, no need to purchase any new furniture or decor.
No need to prep or change or clean anything.
I will bring my organizing toolkit and you will bring your readiness for change.
Picture the life you love… now let’s create it in the essence of every space.
Co-Create with Me: $165.00 (You stay and participate in the process of transformation. This is a great choice if you want to have a little more oversight with the process and keep costs down. )
Hand Over the Reins: $225.00 (To busy to stay, gotta get the kids to camp and just want the room to have a treatment? This is the package for you. Keep in mind I will need your presence 15 min before and after the session.)
Email with a description of your needs and I will get back to you within 48 hours.